You cannot change your spouse. If you haven’t learned that by now, you haven’t been listening. You would do better to imagine yourself as a farmer planting seeds. You can water, cultivate and weed but growth depends on factors like rain and the seed itself.
Practice good farming in your marriage. Pray for your spouse. Do the things discussed so far to tend to your spouse but above all pray for them. Pray for their relationship with God and their spiritual growth. Pray for their heart and their joy. Then depend upon God to give the results. You will not grow your relationship without Him and He will not grow you until you submit.
Finally, pray faithfully. Remember:
Matthew 7:7 (NLT)
7 “Keep on asking, and you will receive what you ask for. Keep on seeking, and you will find. Keep on knocking, and the door will be opened to you.