Sometimes just pursuing reconciliation with a person through communication is not enough. Sometimes you need to take it to another level. Look at Proverbs 18:16,
A man’s gift makes room for him, and brings him before great men.
Sometimes it wouldn’t hurt you to offer a gift to someone with whom you are seeking to reconcile. The New International Version says, A gift opens the way.
When a brother is offended and the contentions are like bars of iron with the gate shut tight, the thing that opens the way is a gift. The Living Bible says, A gift does wonders. The Scripture says in Proverbs 21:14,
A gift in secret pacifies anger.
It is important to understand that both Proverbs 18:16 and 21:14 are actually shared in a negative sense. They are talking about the power of a bribe. Proverbs is great that way because it gives us both the positive and negative perspectives. It’s a truth (that I’m not saying is a good thing) that a bribe can open doors which may not be opened otherwise.
In a positive way, it is true that a gift can do wonders. Not that you are trying to buy someone’s favor, but a sincere gift can be a powerful form of communication. The important thing is your motivation behind it.
A gift can say, “You’re valuable enough to me that I took some of my hard-earned money and bought this for you.” A gift has the power to take things to another level as you seek to make things right.