REAL FAILURES ARE SO MUCH BETTER THAN FAKE SUCCESSES. DON’T BE AFRAID TO PUT A FEW THINGS ON THE LINE.
We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed.
2 CORINTHIANS 4:8–9
They say that for every one good idea a person has, they had to produce at least forty bad ones to get there. I’m pretty sure the numbers are skewed because my ratio’s at least one hundred bad for every good one, but who’s counting? Usually when I feel like I’ve failed, it’s because my definition of failure is a little off.
Sure, we might have to shut the doors on an organization we poured into for years. A vacation we planned for the kids might devolve into a week of petty arguments and ketchup smears all over the car. We might have given our all to college only to find we weren’t cut out for the classroom. It doesn’t always mean we failed. Sometimes it just means it’s time for a change.
We often use other people’s metrics to define what was a success and what was a failure. Even when our plans fail, we usually realize a lot of people were loved in the process, which was our goal in starting. We ended up crossing paths with people we might never have met if we hadn’t put ourselves out there. Sometimes these people even nestle their way into our inner circle.
Beyond my faith, the goal I have in life is to find people to share it with. Our ideas are a success if we have more friends when they end. Our failures make us more real too. They give us more in common with everyone else who has experienced frustration and loss. You never know: whether it’s a small, private failure or a big, public one, the impact our lives will have is sometimes much greater in our failures than in our successes. Try something big. Dust off that big idea you’ve had. Stop waiting. Don’t worry about if it won’t work. Be concerned if you won’t give it a whirl. I’d rather have a couple of ideas fail than a faith that won’t try.
What failure in your life do you need to redefine?