The man who always has to be right rarely is.
A pastor in the Midwest who was known as a great leader often told his congregations that he would not go to battle with them. “I am not a fighter,” he told them, “I’m a lover.” Is it any surprise that his churches grew and flourished under such a philosophy?
Rhetoricians teach that persuasion is less an art of coercion than it is the art of compromise. Resolution of most arguments is found in the middle of the two points of view rather than in either point alone.
Settle matters quickly with your adversary who is taking you to court.
When I speak of compromise, I am not saying you should compromise God’s Word. But one of the troubling trends in our society is that we look at personal compromise as spiritual and emotional weakness, rather than its true position of strength and power. Finding a peaceful resolution in the center of conflict is the true measure of effective leadership and personal integrity.
Pastors who can mediate, moderate, and compromise will grow churches. Pastors who refuse to budge will fail, because they have chosen to entertain only their point of view (which, wise as it may be, is nonetheless fallen).