Wisdom for Grandparents
Proverbs 17:6 (NLT): “Grandchildren are the crowning glory of the aged.”
There’s something special about the relationship between a grandparent and grandchild, isn’t there? It’s a bond that is often filled with warmth, affection, and a sense of deep connection that can transcend even the parent-child relationship. As society is beginning to recognize, the Bible has long understood the importance of grandparents in shaping the lives of future generations. Today, with increasing recognition from psychologists like Dr. Arthur Kornhaber, we’re seeing how this connection provides an emotional safety net that’s uniquely strong.
Dr. Kornhaber claims that the bond between a child and grandparent is “the purest, least psychologically complicated form of human love.”
Grandparents have the gift of time—something many parents struggle with. They often pass on traditions, stories, wisdom, and love, creating a foundation of emotional security for their grandchildren.
I’m reminded of how scripture honors this role. In 2 Chronicles 33, we find the story of King Manasseh, one of the most wicked men to ever live, who found redemption in his later years. Though he failed as a father, having raised an evil son in Amon, he had just enough time to influence his grandson, Josiah, who became one of the greatest kings in Israel’s history. The beauty of this story lies in the power of a grandparent’s repentance and influence. Imagine the elderly Manasseh spending time with young Josiah, sharing his regrets, lessons learned, and newfound faith. While Manasseh’s son Amon could not be reached, Josiah’s heart was open, and his grandfather’s transformation surely had an impact on his path to becoming a godly king. This shows us how significant the grandparent-grandchild relationship can be, even when it seems like time is running out.
So, how can grandparents today make the most of their “crowning glory”? How can they use their wisdom and love to shape the future generation? Let’s explore four key tools that can help grandparents polish their crowns: prudence, presence, provision, and prayer.
Prudence
As grandparents, it can be tempting to offer advice—sometimes a bit more than new parents want to hear. And it’s understandable! After all, grandparents have a lifetime of wisdom. But there’s a delicate balance to strike. It’s important to know when to speak up and when to step back, letting parents find their way.
Proverbs 17:6 speaks to the wisdom of older generations, and this wisdom isn’t just in knowing what to say, but when to say it.
New parents are often insecure, and while they need guidance, they also need space to grow into their role. Grandparents can offer their advice with gentleness, leaving room for parents to make their own decisions. It’s like being a steady lighthouse in the distance—always shining, but never overwhelming the ship’s captain.
Presence
Being present in the lives of grandchildren is so important. In a world where families are often spread across cities, states, or even countries, finding ways to stay connected can be challenging, but it’s crucial. Grandparents should make their homes and hearts open to their grandchildren. Spending time, telling stories, and sharing Scripture can be powerful ways to build that bond. Even if you live far away, technology is a great bridge—sending emails, texts, or video messages can keep you connected. A quick phone call, a week-long visit, or even shared vacations can make a world of difference. The key is to make the effort to be present, even if it’s virtual. Your grandchildren will remember the love you poured into those moments.
Provision
Grandparents can also provide in a material sense. Now, this doesn’t mean spoiling grandchildren with every new toy or gadget, but rather offering thoughtful support. Maybe it’s a few extra dollars toward a hobby they’re passionate about, or perhaps it’s setting aside money for their future education. Many older adults today are in a better financial position than younger generations, and this allows grandparents to provide a little extra where it counts. It’s about giving with intention—investing in the lives of your grandchildren in ways that help them grow and thrive.
Prayer
Perhaps the greatest tool in a grandparent’s arsenal is prayer. In 1 Samuel 12:23, the prophet Samuel says, “God forbid that I should sin against heaven by failing to pray for you.” Grandparents often have more time for prayer and Bible reading, which is a blessing in itself. Praying for your grandchildren—lifting them up before God—creates a spiritual hedge around them.
You may not always be able to be there physically, but your prayers reach beyond any distance.
Through prayer, you can cover them with protection, wisdom, and grace, asking God to guide their steps and grow their faith.
Polishing the Crown
So, what are the tools for effective grandparenting? They’re simple but incredibly impactful: prudence, presence, provision, and prayer. These four tools can help grandparents polish the crown that Proverbs 17:6 speaks of—the crown that grandchildren represent. They offer opportunities to influence not only the lives of the grandchildren but to leave a legacy of faith and love that stretches across generations. It’s never too late to start using these tools. Whether you’ve just become a grandparent or you’ve held that title for years, there’s always a way to grow and nurture that relationship. Grandchildren are indeed a crown to the aged, and those who embrace this role with love and wisdom are truly the grandest people of all.
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