Stop Wondering What ‘Might Have Been’

How spending too much time reflecting on “if only”s can prevent us from moving forward.

After graduating from college, I went through a period where I questioned almost every decision I had ever made. From wondering why I bought a particular pair of pants to second-guessing what career I wanted to pursue, I fielded an unending stream of “if only”s. If only I had as many connections as her, if only I had the same experience as him, if only I had the same opportunities as so-and-so.