Traveling tends to highlight compatibility. Traveling has a way of exposing our character issues, and they’re likely to become even more critical to address over time. The way we travel on literal trips is also likely to compare with how we travel through life.
The feeling of love is important to get a relationship off the ground, to begin a journey together. But character and love-in-action is what sustains a loving relationship. Of utmost importance when traveling with someone to some exotic destination, across town, and especially through life are…
- choosing your companion
- dealing with problems
- being sensitive to each other’s needs, inclinations, and preferences
- complementing each other
- being honest and trustworthy
- enjoying the journey
If you’ve already made a marital commitment, it may seem too late to do much about choosing your traveling companion. But this is absolutely untrue. Although you chose to travel with this person some time ago, you must keep choosing them every day if you’re to fully enjoy the journey.
It’s not like anyone forced you to travel with your mate. You chose to take this trip—likely the biggest trip of your lifetime. Being mindful of this is a big deal. Too many people excitedly choose to and vow to travel life with someone only to grouse about their choice later.
If you’ve already started the journey, this is no time to complain. Take responsibility for your choices and make decisions for how your future together will look. Now is the time for a full-time, full-body, full-minded decision and to stand behind it.
How might you stand behind it? Spend your time and energy reminding yourself you made the right and best choice when you chose your mate. It’s imperative that you choose your mate again and again no matter how difficult your relationship is in the moment. It’s not enough to say “I do” at the start of a relationship. You must say “I do” again and again, each step of the way. You say “I do” to owning your part in the struggles. You say “I do” to embracing your mate for who they are. You say “I do” for doing your part to make the relationship better. Choose again to say and mean “I do.”